Breakfast

I LOVE YOU!!! Robert, I just got back from the church. My mother has been going to an exercise class there and I have attended with her. They have it on Monday, Wednesday and Friday, I am quickly realizing how out of shape I am. I am going to help my mom around the house and then we are going to the gym on base and I am going to teach her some new ways to lift weights. I showed her some last time I was down here. I am sorry you were late to work today and in a sour mood. I wish I could have been there in person to cheer you up. In one of your messages you said that you heard from Sean, I will have to write to him too. I am also sorry that you had a bad experience with your parents on the phone last night. I wish I could have been there. Robert, everything will work out all right. You and I are going to be starting our own family. You can trust me, you don't have to trust them. We will work it out. Our breakfast will be kept to those who will or would attend the Temple. My side will probably be larger, but we will do fine. Don't worry about the funding for it. We can fund the breakfast with money for the reception. We will be fine. I don't want you to take on a second job so we can get married, it shouldn't be taht way. We will have plenty of money left over from the reception, even after we fund the breakfast with it. We just need to find out how many people will attend. If you don't feel comfortable asking your parents for assistance, then don't! My parents will help us plenty, and after we are married we will make it together. I love you, it will all work out. You once told me that if we are trying to do the right thing then Heavenly Father will provide for us. Getting married isn't a wrong thing, it is a good thing. I love you. He will watch out for us and He won't let us down. Let's continue to read our scriptures, pay our tithing, pray and all of the other book answers we use in Sunday School. He will look out for us if we are continually trying to do the right thing. Were you not taken care of when you did these things while you were saving to go on your mission? It will all be fine. Wedding breakfast, we will have close to 20 people. This is because when I stayed in Utah my senior year I had a lot of people look out for me and care for me. (2 people here) Chad and I became good friends, he understood the limbo I was in. I wasn't one of the cousins, but I wasn't one of the children (uncles) either. (2 people) Maria lived upstairs. She employed me. I babysat all the time, this is where my income came from. She also taught me how to sew and how to drive a stick shift. (2 people) Grandma and Grandpa will come (my grandfather might not care, he didn't go to my graduation). (2 people) Lexie helped me connect with Weber. She took me up to settle everything and even took me up to move in before I got my car. Her husband, Brad, has a good head on my shoulders and if I ever needed spiritual advice, he was the one I would go to, almost my dad away from home. (2 people) Mike and Shauna will also go. Shauna will help us put the breakfast together if you would like. She is always very willing to serve. The breakfast I helped out with was her brother's. She is very sweet and patient. There will also be my parents and brothers and sisters (7 people). I will try to fly my uncle Bob in and my grandma (2 people). They are the ones we met in California. This is my dad's mom and brother. I almost forgot Julia and Derk (2 more). Julia became my mom away from home. I realize dear that that is a lot of people (19). It is almost 20 from my side alone. This is why we will ask Shauna to help. It some ways it is burdonsome to have a really close extended family. (We will also have Mike Nollar and Debi there) The crowd that goes to the Temple will be much smaller. My grandmother (mom's mom) will go, I am unsure about my grandfather. My Aunt Lexie and Uncle Brad will go. And my parents will go. Chad and Lynne might also attend. These are the only ones that hold recommends. I am sure that all day long I will block most of the people out, even during the reception. I am so in love with you, that that will be where all of my attention is focused. Please don't worry about the breakfast. WE will take care of it together. September 22-23: As long as I can have your nights I will be pacified. I love you. I am going to send this off to you. If this sets you off and makes you upset, please respond to it right away, it is not meant to do so. I just want to make you aware. The people rack up really fast. Who will be attending the breakfast on your side? I am sure that there isn't as many. I have only heard you talk of your Uncle Dee and he seems like a real character. I wish I could be with you right now, it seems as if it is a really stressful time for you, and I don't want it to be. We should both be happy. I love you. The future Mrs. Husted Robert, I guess what I am trying to say, but haven't is that I feel that you are thinking of us as a seperate unit. We are one. I know that legally we aren't and we haven't been sealed yet, but we ARE one. We will be making choices and planning a wedding together, mostly from the money that my parents will be giving us. Please don't assume that this is the groom's sole responsibility and that that is the bride's sole responsibility. We will work on the breakfast together. It is only labeled as the groom's responsibility. I am sorry if it has come accross this way, but what ever money we do or don't save will be ours, so we are both paying for it, whether we spend a lot on the reception alone, or if we skimp a little off of the reception for the breakfast. We will do it, I have faith in us. I love you. Your fiancee, Wanda M. (Husted)