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Robert, Don't Stress!!! Bridesmaids and Ushers: Because none of the guests get to see the actual wedding we are having a reception. The purpose of having a ushers and bridesmaids is the smae reason we are having a line. Our guests will have a chance to meet us, our parents and our closest friends that we will choose to attend our line. I think it will keep it very nice if you want to wear a black tux and have your groomsmen wear dark suits. It is up to you. This idea seems to have you very stressed out because it keeps coming up. The decision is yours dear. Whatever you want or feel most comfortable doing. However, give Jenn the choice of choosing a black dress or a dress in the wedding colors. Reception -- formal vs. casual: Are you trying to influence my decision? "formal or casual/fun" I think we will be able to meld these two together. I would like the atmosphere to be more formal, but I want it to be a fun time. I think we can accomplish both of these. We can have a DJ for the dancing part, what type of music do you want played? When and how are we going to choose a DJ? Of course we are going to do the cake ceremony, I think that will be a lot of fun. Do you want a groom's cake? I am not quite sure what they are for. My mom said that a lot of times the groom feels left out because a cake is made "for the bride" and so a cake is made for the groom. This is also up to you. We will also throw the bouquet and garter. How high up should I keep the garter? Practicality: We should set on a budget and stay within it. I have asked my dad to give me an exact dollar figure he is going to allow me to spend. We will not tell my mother this. We will keep the reciepts and estimates of everything purchased in my planner. This way we can alot a certain amount of money for each service we require (ie baker, caterer, DJ). The reason we will keep it in my planner is because my planner has become my sedding journal. It has dates already set when things need to be accomplished by. The Temple: You are correct, the Temple will be the best part. This is the most important part of the day. It will also make us the happiest. Our reception is what we are using to allow everone to help us celebrate our finding one another. By the way, we need to find out an estimated number of people your parents are planning on inviting, how many they think will attend, how many you and I will invite/attend and how many my parents will invite/attend. Anyone my parents will be inviting, aside from family, will probably wait for the open house in El Centro. I am expecting this to be REALLY simple. Just a get together in the gym with punch and cookies. Kind of like after a farewell for a leaving missionary. We, mainly you, will need to decide on what we want to do in LA. Temple Breakfast: It depends on what time of day we get married. There is a breakfast before the Temple or a luncheon after the Temple. If we attend the Temple super early, than we can wait until after, if we don't have it until late morning I would think before would be okay. If you don't think your family will help in this area, we can enlist my family to help. They would be glad to. We won't need too much frosting on our cake. I usually don't like too much. I think it can get sickening if it is too thick, some people don't feel this way and the frosting is all they are after. Our reception will be plenty of fun, for everyone. I want you to enjoy it, I don't want you to be stressed. Honeymoon: I don't want to wait until June to go. Did you know that in ancient Hebrew culture after a man got married he was released from the military and all civic duties for one year. He didn't have to work or do anything. That is because the first year of marriage is the crucial one. I am not asking for a full year, that is out of the question. What I am asking for is that we have time when we are first married to be alone and really get acquainted with one another. I would rather it not be crowded, but I am sure that there will be people no matter what we do, unless we do as Scott Knell did. I would rather our honeymoon is practical. This way we can have SOME money when we are first married. Plus I would feel guilty if we went expensive. I have always had a hard time spending money, especially for wants. I figure that our honeymoon is more of a need though. I would rather we took it easy. I think we discussed this over the phone Sunday. I want to be able to sleep in an extra hour when we are awake, rather than hurrying off. I do realize that some things will have a time when we are supposed to be there. I am flexible as long as I have plenty of time to be with you alone. You can call it selfishness if you want, but our honeymoon time is for US, no one else. Nice lodgings vs. nice scenery: I will leave this one up to you. Both are nice. I will be happy wherever I am if I am with you. I will forgo scenery to be with you, but I will also forgo nice lodgings to be with you. We could combine it. The first night we could stay somewhere really nice and then go somewhere really pretty. It is up to you. Don't worry about this either. we will be happy. If you aren't happy, tell me and I promise I will do my best to change it. I love you. I don't think I am expecting our wedding to be a storybook wedding. I think that this would be an unrealistic expectation. I don't expect to have everything and even what we do have I don't expect it to come off perfectly. I don't think I bend well for unexpected catastrophes and so I will expect everything to go awry, this way I will be really happy and impressed with our wedding. I love you too. We will have fun, no matter what kind of wedding or honeymoon we have. Please be patient. I promise that everything will soon fall into place. I love you and I am anxious to spend the rest of my life with you. Your fiancee, Wanda